“How do I change my life?” If you’re asking this question, keep in mind that nothing will change outside of you until something changes inside of you. The one constant in the universe is that nothing stays the same, all things change. And change happens both to you, and around you.
An example of change happening to you is simply that you get older, and as you age your body changes, you life experience changes, and your viewpoints change.
In 2019 Covid-19 changed the global economy, forcing everyone to change how we worked, and went about our daily lives. This is an example of change happening around you. Sometimes when change happens around you the more you resist it, the tougher your life becomes. So instead of avoiding it, try to thing of ways you can change your life, and most importantly how you can change your mindset to allow you to thrive in the changes happening around you.
There are three ways you will encounter change in your life. The first is through crisis, like loss of a family member. Another way you might experience change is through your choices. Choices are long lasting, and life changing so you must learn to make wise choices. And lastly you will experience change that happens by chance. Regardless of how change enters your life you’re going to have to make a choice to roll with the punches as they say, or just throw in the towel.
We cannot avoid unexpected events in our lives. What we can control is how we choose to respond to them. It is our power of choice that enables us to activate positive change in our lives.
Acting on our power of choice provides us with more opportunities to change our lives for the better. The more opportunities we create to change our lives, the more fulfilled and happier our lives become.
There are specific things that you can do to change your life
16 Ways To Change Your Life This Year and Beyond
If you’re wondering how to change your life, here are the best tips to change your life.
1. Change From Hindsight To Mindsight
Most people can only view their future through the lens of their past. So if you have a troubled past then your vision for your future becomes blurred by what’s happened to you in the past.
To change your life it’s necessary that you stop viewing your future through the lens of your past and develop your mindsight. Mindsight is way of focused thinking that allows you to understand the internal workings of your mind. Developing your mindsight will help you to be aware of your thinking, but not consumed by it.
Consider the difference between these two statements. “I am sad” and “I feel sad”. I am sad is a limiting statement about who you are based on your past. Something happened to you that caused you to have a negative emotion and now you are verbally assigning that emotion to who you are, and to what you are rather than to just how you happen to be feeling in the moment.
The statement I feel sad is descriptive of an emotion you feel in the moment.
2. Know Your Life Purpose
“How do i change my life?” First, spend some time trying to identify your purpose in life. I believe everyone in life has a purpose, and was preprogramed to know that purpose. But when we were born other people started de-programing you.
Have you ever wondered how birds know to fly from north to south. It’s because they have been programed to do so. And you’ve been programed to fly also. Get in touch with your purpose by answering these questions. What is it that you want to achieve in your life? What are your dreams? What makes you happy?
When you discover your purpose your life will have direction, and meaning, and you won’t have a sense of wandering through life aimlessly.
2. Know There’s Something Special In You
My favorite book says you are created in God’s image and that you’re his highest form of creation. There are books in you, cures to diseases in you, the power to mend broken hearts in you, the ability fix communities and get people working with each other instead of against each other, and so much more all placed inside of you. But in order to achieve your goals, to live the life you dream of it’s necessary that you know there’s something special inside of you.
3. Believe It’s Possible
It’s imperative that you believe that changing your life for the better is possible. Just look around you and if you can find just one person that’s living the life you want to live, that’s doing things you want to do, that has the career you want to have, that’s making the changes in lives you want to make then it’s necessary that you know it’s possible for you.
Understand something…we are all born the same way…naked, dumb, and speechless everything else we learn. If someone else can learn it so can you.
4. Stop Arguing With Stupid People
Mark Twain said “Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.”
It’s necessary that you stop listening to the naysayers, and dream busters in your life. In fact where possible it’s necessary that you remove them from your life. Why? Because if you’re already struggling to believe positive things about you, and about your life then you don’t need anyone else telling you that you can’t change, or that you can’t have your dream.
5. Do Hard Things
Make a note of this. If you do what is easy your life will be hard, if you do what is hard your life will be easy.
Human nature is to avoid hard things even when doing something as simple as riding a bicycle.
While casual riders gravitate toward cushy gel based saddles, pros ride saddles with zero padding over thousands of miles. Why? Because professional riders know that bike seats need to be hard to do their job properly.
Soft cushy seats are comfortable at first because they allow you to sink into them, but later they cause rubbing, chafing, and over-heating. Hard seats are hard at first but provide proper contact with sit bones causing greater lift in the back and a more comfortable ride over time.
So the longer you’re on the hard seat the more comfortable your ride becomes. Such is life.
As we think about our lives, our work, and our relationships we tend to avoid things that are hard. But when we make the hard choice, when we turn down the road least traveled the discomfort is normally short lived. In the long run doing the hard thing strengthens emotional muscles, and improves character.
Doing hard things will make you more comfortable over time.
“We choose to go to the moon in this decade and do the other things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard.” ~ John F. Kennedy
6. Think Different
The worlds best brands, be they corporate or personal, have this one thing in common…they think different. Einstein said “We can’t solve problems with the same level of thinking that created them.” In order to change your life in 2023 and beyond it’s necessary that you change your thinking, or in other words retrain your brain.
7. Start Dreaming
Dreams are the seeds of your success. Einstein dreamed his Theory of Relativity. Michael Jordan when asked how he became the GOAT he said “I dreamed I could do impossible things with a basketball.”
We all dreamed as children. In fact we spent a lot of our time playing make believe. Playing make believe is a way of building our dream, and visualization skills. How did Einstein dream The Theory of Relativity? He had a dream about cows along an electric fence, and when shocked all jumping at the same time.
Your dreams become possible when you dream the impossible.
8. Set Goals
Once you have a dream for your life you need to set goals to achieve that dream. Here are the four categories of goals you need to set to change your life.
Set give goals
Many people are motivated by getting money but the higher purpose is to be motivated by giving to the people we love, and to those in need so set give goals.
Set get goals
You can’t give if you ain’t got so you’ve got to get first in order to give. So you have to set financial goals for what you want to acquire in life.
Set do goals
In order to get things you must do things. So set goals for the things you’re going to try to do this year, the things you want to accomplish in order to improve your future success.
Set be goals
What are you going to develop yourself to be in terms of your future, your finances, and your family.
9. Invest In Learning The Fundamentals of Success
Jesus said something peculiar. He said show me where a person spends their money, and I’ll show you where their heart is. Have you put your heart into changing your life or just your words?
Your success is too important to try and sustain it solely on a diet of free information. You have to learn it, and practice its tenants just like you would a sport, or any other skilled practice. Did you know that Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, Dwayne Wade all paid for coaching…after they were All-Stars. That’s right they each hired renowned coach Tim Grover.
Here’s the lesson in all of this if the worlds best athletes know they need coaching to change their game doesn’t it make sense that you’d benefit from coaching as well?
If you’re serious about changing your life in 2023 and beyond you should consider an invest in your change by taking a course in the science of success, and getting a coach to walk with you.
10. Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
Exercise teaches us a truth about personal growth. That is that nothing grows without pain. Folks nothing will change in your life until you get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
If you’re uncomfortable talking to strangers, then you can’t improve your network until you get comfortable with speaking with strangers. I practice the 3-foot rule. Anyone that gets within 3-feet of me I tell them what I do. 😂
11. Face Your Fears
Another thing many people will need to do to change their lives in 2023 is to face, and overcome their anxieties and fears. Watch this short video for 3 tips on overcoming anxiety and fear.
12. Be Honest With Yourself
When you think about honesty do you consider that it’s perhaps more important that you be as brutally honest with yourself as you are honest with others. In other words being real with yourself for your own personal development. Watch this video to discover why it’s important to be an inspiration to yourself by honestly expressing yourself.
13. Build Your Spiritual Awareness
I work hard at maintaining a daily rhythm that prioritizes my spiritual journey. By being intentional about daily rituals of practicing peace of mind, practicing gratefulness, practicing generosity, and seeking calm and ease, I’ve created a greater spiritual awareness in my life.
You can do the same.
Each day take time to quiet yourself, and listen to your GPS, your God Positioning System. When you make room in your life to listen instead you’ll find your intuition is always talking to you directing you towards the people, activities, and resources necessary to bring about the required change in you so you can live your dreams.
One of the most important disciplines in building your spiritual awareness is learning to be still. You can create a habit of being still just by consciously lying still each morning upon waking. Spend a few moments in bed and just say out loud a few things you’re thankful for. You can be thankful for the bed, the blankets, the space that’s protected you from the elements, and the rest that’s rejuvenated you. It may seem like such a small thing but do you realize millions and millions of people around the world don’t have a bed, don’t have blankets. And as I write this millions of people in the Ukraine haven’t had a good nights sleep in 8 years, 10 months, and 6 days.
The energy you greet the day with will greet you back.
14. Design Your Destiny
Changing your life means taking responsibility for your life. It means understanding that you must take 100% responsibility for what happens in your life good or bad. You are responsible for designing your destiny, nobody else.
One of the most insidious myths is that we are entitled to a wonderful life. That someone other than ourselves is responsible for filling our lives with joy, love, peace, a great career, money, and nurturing family and friends.
But the truth is that it’s all up to you. You are the master of your fate, you are the captain of your soul, and if you are unwilling to accept 100% responsibility for the results you get in your life your life will never change.
Where ever you are in life, at some point you made an appointment to be there.
15. Pick Yourself For Success
Raising your hand to picked was one of the first things you learned in school. Resume’s are a concept that reinforces the raise your hand, and hope to picked idea.
Roughly 9% of the American population is self-employed. However a Dartmouth study revealed that 70% would like to be self-employed. If only 9% are self-employed, but 70% want to be where’s the rub? The rub comes in because going all the way back to kindergarten we taught children to raise their hands and wait for someone to pick you. People don’t know how to pick themselves.
The recession induced by the COVID-19 pandemic resulted in steep job losses, and has ushered in an age of self-reliance. To change your life in 2023 and in any year going forward you must learn to be self-reliant…you must learn to PICK YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS!
16. Learn To Eat Elephants
An old African proverb ask the question, ‘How do you eat an elephant?’ The answer…One bite at a time. Mark Twain put it this way “The secret to getting ahead is getting started. The secret to getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming task into small, manageable task, and then starting on the first one.”
One of the best ways to change your life is to learn to accomplish complex and overwhelming task by sorting them into bite sized chunks, and working on each chunk until you’ve ate that elephant.
Here are some practical tips for learning to eat your elephant.
The Bottom Line
You can absolutely change your life. But you have to choose daily to do so. Start with choosing to take action with the 16 life changing tips included here. Visit my course library take a course, and sign up for one of my coaching offerings.
As you seek to improve your life remember that if you want to go fast go alone, but if you want to go far go together. I’m your brother on this journey here to help you improve and step into your greatness.
Wishing you much Peace, L❤️ve, Happiness in 2023 and beyond.