There are things you do when your boss, neighbors, or our friends are looking. You behave in a manner (even when you are not aware of it) that you want to be perceived or that has come to be expected.
Then there are things you do when you think no one is watching, when you think you’re all alone, or when you think everyone there is just like you and won’t expose you. That’s who you really are.
You’d save yourself a lot of heartache and trouble if you’d only believe people are who they are the first time they show you.